I’ve got this extremely bad habit where I flutter. Yes, flutter. I start work on something, then see something that catches my eye, and start work on that. Next, I get an idea in my head that I “can’t help but write down,” and bam! I’m racing again to start another task. On and on and on it goes.
I’m actually very good about completing tasks, but there are still quite a few that never get done. With my brain always going, for each task I finish, there are two or three left incomplete. Do I have time to do everything? No. But I need to make some time to stick to putting together those things that matter the most to me. I need to prioritize, and make sure the goals I have set for myself are realistic and fulfilled.
About 30 years and 5 Billion lies later, I’ve learned an important lesson about life. It’s so simple. It’s in about a trillion self-help books. However, this lesson doesn’t mean a damn thing if you haven’t actually internalized the truth behind its simplicity.
The lesson: Don’t lie to yourself.
That simple. Stop saying, “I’m going to take to take care of the lawn today,” only to fail to do such a simple task. Stop saying, “I’m going to get a better job,” and then settle for your current circumstance for another five years. Stop saying, “I love you, self,” while eating whatever you wish and avoiding activity.
Just stop lying.
Because here is the kicker. When you become okay with lying to yourself, you become okay with lying to others. In essence, the lies you tell yourself are promises, and if you can’t keep an internal promise, what makes you think you can keep a promise to your niece? to your nephew? to your best friend? to your sister? to your mom? to your boss?
Sorry, but it’s just not going to happen.
Just. Stop. Lying. To. Yourself.